PSYCHVINE

Category: Assertiveness

I grew up in Detroit during the good times. My father worked in the auto industry for 36 years. He was able to provide a stable, good, middle class life for his family and see both of his children through college. I was a loyal American car buyer until the late 70’s and the oil crisis. I bought my first Toyota in 1979. I felt a little bad about it at the time. Over the years, I bought a few…

 “Hello, Fred. Welcome back,” Dr. Smelt says as she ushers Fred into her office.   “Thanks for seeing me so quickly. I’m surprised you work on Black Friday. Does that mean the session is half price?”   Dr. Smelt laughs, “Actually, I find that this time of year is especially busy. And I hate to shop in crowds. So, Fred, last time I saw you was several months ago. You cancelled your last appointment and then didn’t make any further ones. What…

“Before we go any further,” Dr. Smelt says, “I want to tell you a bit about confidentiality.” “No need,” Fred interrupts, “I know that bull shit. You tell me you’re like a priest, but if the judge wants to know something, you’ll tell him. That’s the real world. All this stuff about confidentiality is a way for you to get me to spill my guts. But, I’m not telling you anything that could get me into more trouble with the…

Dr. Smelt begins this session by collaborating with Kimberly on an agenda. Kimberly decides she mostly wants to focus on something her boyfriend, Ray, did a few days ago that really got her upset. They also agree to review her progress to date. Dr. Smelt queries, “So, what happened that got you so upset, Kimberly?” “There was this friend of Ray’s whose dog had puppies. Incredibly, without even asking my permission, Ray goes and brings one of them home. I…

In the first part of Session 4.0, Dr. Smelt and Kimberly explore new ways to think about other people’s driving. Kimberly realized that there are healthier, alternative ways of thinking about challenges encountered while driving. She now understands that everyone, including herself, messes up sometimes and that she doesn’t need to take mistakes made by others personally.   As the session continues, Dr. Smelt shifts the focus, “You’ve made a good start at thinking about potentially upsetting events differently. That will…