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Category: Depression

No matter where you live in the world, you may have strong emotions about the recent U.S. election.  Millions of those living in the United States have expressed intense frustration, anger, rage, disbelief, depression, despair, anxiety, fear, and pessimism.  Others feel joy and extreme optimism about the future now that Donald Trump has won. Today’s headlines about possible Russian interference in the election has stunned many people while others seemingly feel indifferent or complacent about that ominous possibility.  Another bombshell…

In several previous blogs, we discussed domestic abuse and violence. In the first blog, we reviewed common abusive behaviors known as gaslighting. The second blog discussed more examples of gaslighting behavior. Finally, we wrote on the topic of why people return to toxic relationships. The following TED talk by Leslie Morgan Steiner describes a moving account of one woman’s story.      

Dr. Smelt continues (see Session 2.0) her explanation of how cognitive behavior therapy (also referred to as CBT) works, “I like to give a whimsical example of how your thoughts or perceptions of events powerfully influence the way you end up feeling about what happened to you. Let’s say that you walk out your front door one day on the way to work and you step on a freshly deposited mound of dog poop. What thoughts would come to your…

In our last blog, you met Dr. Patricia Smelt and her client, Kimberly. Dr. Smelt is trying to figure out what Kimberly wants out of therapy. She has detected a whiff of resistance. Dr. Smelt’s last question was, “So, if we asked your boyfriend what he thinks you need from coming here, what do you think he’d say?” Let’s see what happens next. Kimberly hesitates and rubs her forehead, “I guess he might say I need to work on my…

Police, social workers, and medical personnel who work with domestic violence victims frequently feel frustrated when they see abused victims return to their toxic relationships over and over again. Families and friends of abused victims can’t understand how someone they care about could possibly repeatedly make the same horrible decision. So just exactly why do people return to toxic, abusive relationships? There are actually a number of reasons such as: Feeling helpless and hopeless: Abusers almost always go after their…

In our last blog, we discussed a psychological phenomenon known as gaslighting. In brief, gaslighting refers to a wide variety of behaviors aimed at a target person in order to sow the seeds of self-doubt, insecurity, dependency, and inadequacy. Continuing from the earlier blog, here is another example: A gaslighter tells the victim something very illogical, but insists he is correct. He then inserts two or three outright lies within an overall string of truths.  Gaslighters sometimes misrepresent findings of…

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